I recently read an blog post, “Why I Will Never Respect Meghan Trainer,” and the first thing that popped into my mind was… Wow, really harsh words for someone who claims to be a “feminist.”
My first thought was that this is probably some feminist who obviously doesn’t understand the definition of feminism at its core.
Yes, feminism is about equality for men and women, and that’s the basic gist of it, but it’s also more than that. As a feminist myself, I believe that regardless of another woman’s personal beliefs and opinions, we are all women who face the same or similar issues on a daily basis, and for that reason alone, we should always respect each other.
I see what you’re saying, I see why you would be upset with her. She doesn’t come across as too sweet or too kind in her song in regards to self image of women with different body types, but, an age old question of feminism here… Why does she have to be sweet and kind just because she’s a woman? This song is her viewpoint, this song is her creative expression and freedom.
No, she shouldn’t have said “skinny bitches,” (I guess in your opinion) but can you honestly say that you never looked at a thin girl and thought the same thing, even though you were wrong on so many levels?
Can you honestly say that you’ve never been proud of your curves, your vivaciousness, your extra fluff in places, and imagined a man holding you at night and loving you for those “flaws” anyway? Can you honestly say that you’ve never said you refuse to fit into the “silicone barbie-doll” look that everyone strives for these days?
That’s what I thought.
I have also heard her lyrics to other songs that I did not particularly like, especially the one about her future husband. Personally, I don’t share the beliefs she talks about in her songs. But there are a ton of women who do. And isn’t that something else we fight for as women, equal representation? And that women can be anything they want to be? Isn’t that a rule of feminism? So why shouldn’t a women want to be a housewife and take care of her children? Why does that particular desire make her any less of a feminist? The answer is, it doesn’t.
Because to truly be a feminist, you have to respect all women, not just the ones whose views align with your own.
Meghan Trainer is young, successful, and driven. She is not afraid to go after her dreams and be who she is regardless of others’ opinions of her. Those things alone are something to be respected. Her views may be different than mine, but I will always respect her for who she is because yes, I’m a feminist all the time, not just when it is convenient to me.
If, one day, she decides to be a racist, a homophobic, or something equally offensive, then I will lose respect for her, but until then, she has the right to be honest about how girls everywhere grew up thinking about their body image.
How dare you say she should apologize to anyone. She doesn’t owe anyone anything, and neither does any other woman out there who is expressing her right to be who she is and do what she wants to do.
Sing on, Meghan!
You can read the original blog post, by AmbitiouslyLiving, here.