I wasn’t in much of a rush that day. The past couple of years haven’t really been that great, so on the morning of Warped Tour, I took my time getting dressed, then made my way home to pick up my sister. I stopped looking at the line up last year and this year. Like I said, it didn’t invoke much of a desire in me. But when Pat came home the other night, he handed me a pair of tickets. I felt that perhaps mediocre fortune had intervened; maybe I was meant to go after all. And there I went, off to Warped Tour.
I think everyone who is in protest against the BLM movement is kind of missing the point, so just to be clear: they are not saying blue lives don’t matter and that all lives don’t matter. They are simply asking you to honestly look at their reality and to admit that racism still exists. They are pleading with you to acknowledge that scary things happen to them everyday because of the color of their skin, something they cannot change. They are asking you to please care about them.
I don’t like to talk specifics about work. A girl can get into a lot of trouble by saying what she’s really thinking, which is the real reason I never list my work anywhere or really talk about it that much.
But today, I’m going to break my own rule, because there’s an important message I want to talk about, and that is, to just be grateful.
On the eve of my 24th birthday, I’d like to share some things I learned at the wonderful age of 23.
- Its never too late to walk away. For me, that meant walking away from a job I loved in order to try something new (and scary) and equally as exciting, if not more exciting. I wanted to learn about marketing and social media, and the only way to do that was to find hands-on experience. The job I had wasn’t meeting my needs, and that’s okay. I needed the push to find something I really wanted to invest my time in.
- You will always learn more about yourself, every day. For me, this meant asking deep questions about who I am. I learned so much this year about what I want out of life and how to just be myself, in any situation that comes my way.
- You really can trust your mom with anything. I am more and more like my mother every day, and thank God, because honestly sometimes I don’t know how to deal with myself. Well, she’s been dealing with me for 24 years, so she is the ultimate expert in all things Crystal.
- The real world is tough and has no mercy. There is no slack out there for anyone- if you don’t have thick skin and know how to stand up for yourself, you will get stepped on. Its better to be strong and put other people in their place then to let them make you feel small and think they can get away with it.
- Stop biting off more than you can chew. I’m a text-book-case overachiever and hold myself to the highest degree of unrealistic standards. This year I learned that, sometimes, I really can’t do everything. And really, I should stop trying. I always have such compassion for others, but I have to remember to have compassion for myself too. Its okay if I’m not perfect.
- Living with your boyfriend is amazing. Don’t be afraid, take the plunge. Living with your best friend is the best feeling in the world (aside from holding a golden retriever puppy, which I’m childishly wishing for as my birthday present).
T-minus 10 hours and counting. Cheers, 23. Thanks for everything.
Right now I’m sitting in the backyard of my parent’s house, wondering how the heck I’m so freezing cold in this 70 degree weather. I literally feel like I’m in a nightmare. How do people do this? This is summer weather for my family up north, why am I being ridiculous?
But, no matter.
It’s Chinese New Year and officially my year again! I’m a Monkey (and no I don’t make a habit of saying that)!
Hopefully this means amazing things for my family and I. Today we got together to clean and reorganize the dojo we own. It’s amazing how moving things around and dusting off the shelves can really make a change in the energy of a place.
Lately I’ve been feeling a lot closer to the family business. I think after so many years of it being my life, I needed some s p a c e to breathe and be on my own. Now, I think I’m ready to go back to my monkey roots.